Tuesday, July 27, 2010
A Music Video
Title: 2 Atoms In A Molecule
I don't know how a person could stay sad about the end of a relationship with such a peppy, clever break-up song around. It's especially amusing if you read the lyrics.
PS my computer doesn't have Flash, so I'm not sure if the video downloaded, but I hope so. I'd hate for any interested party to miss this!
Monday, July 26, 2010
Several Small Updates
Mini-post 1:
Draper Pretends to be New York
Those of you familiar with life in NYC know that one of the big summer events is free concert in Central Park by the New York Symphony. Well, it turns out they have similar events out here in the boonies!
To celebrate the brand new ampitheater in Draper (it's very pretty-- built right in to the side of the mountain), the Utah Symphony came and gave a free concert. It was very different from the concerts in Manhattan, but still very nice. I didn't have to bring everything I'd need for the event with me to work. I drove my car and parked nearby, not dealing with the subway. And I could actually see the stage. I'm quite sure that the last Symphony concert I attended in Central Park had more people there than live in Draper. (I'm not over-exaggerating-- I believe the announcer said there were more than 200,000 people in attendance.) One more reason to love Draper.Mini-post 2:
Pizza Obsession
I went through this stage last week where I was obsessed with eating pizza all the time. This is out of character for me because normally I'm too cheap to buy myself pizza very often. But due to various circumstances, at one point I had three partially eaten pizzas in my fridge.
Yep, I was living large.
Since the break-up, I've been much more social with NMPs (non-Michael people, I just made that up) and consequently have been having lots of people over to my house who have never been there before. I normally give my address and a brief description because the street number is not actually posted on the house. But I have discovered a re-occuring theme: first time visitors normally say they recognized the place as mine because of the Mike Lee posters.

Mini-post 5
Monday, July 12, 2010
Another overly personal post
I will say this: last week at church I shared my testimony using the words from my favorite hymn: "The Lord is my light, though clouds may arise faith stronger than sight looks up to the skies where Jesus for ever in glory doth reign, then how can I ever in darkness remain?" That's how I feel. I am sad, but I don't feel like I'm in any darkness. I know God is guiding me and that I'm in a good place, even though it's a sad place, and that eventually everything will work out for my best. I know that. And I'm very thankful to know that because I have been SAD.
It took me a while to hone in on sad because it just doesn't come naturally to me these days. I would get sad for a little bit, but not be able to stick with it because I've felt so blessed and lucky in so many other ways. I'm surrounded by so many people who love me and want to help me. I live in such a beautiful place. Everything else in my life is going so well. Michael didn't mean to hurt me and never lied to me or abused me in any way. I knew that God was guiding me and I was in the right place. And I knew everything would work out perfectly in the end. So, even though people would tell me I should go ahead and mourn, and even though I knew that it was fine to be sad, I just couldn't quite be sad for long periods of time.
Well, that was then and this is now. All of the above are still true. I still feel very blessed. I still know God is in charge and has a big plan that will ultimately be for my good. But I am sad and, dare I say it, my heart is broken. Now I understand what people are talking about. Breaking up is awful, even if it's all for the best. I'm learning to be more sympathetic to people whose heart hurts. And I'm learning that being sad is not the same thing as not having faith. I've learned that when I cry hard enough my cheeks start to tingle. Also, I've learned that when dealing with a break-up, buying sexy lingerie makes me feel better.
I've also learned to be humble and accept love and help. I've seen more clearly how really wonderful and kind humans can be. I'm thankful for so many people. My sweet aunt and uncle who went through everyone's family reunion registration folder and scratched out Michael's name. My cousin who texts me every day to see how I'm doing. The girl (I don't even know her name) who saw me crying right after Relief Society and went to the bathroom and brought me some toilet paper. I'm thankful for the nice emails I've gotten from Michael's friends and family. I have a friend who mailed me a special gift to show her "cherishes me" and I wear it every day to remember that I am very loved. A different friend has volunteered an hour massage. My sisters and mother have been so wonderful. I appreciate my co-worker who is going to help me bring my new mattress home. People are really, really beautiful, and it is wonderful to be on the receiving end of so much love.
So, that's where I am now: sad, but optimistic. Wondering if Michael will come back, but emotionally letting him go. Broken-hearted, but relying on the Lord and trusting Him. I am thankful that I have felt Him so close to me throughout.
And lest you think I spend all my time sitting around moping, let me add here that I am redecorating my house (more on that later) and I've started dating online again. I've been emailing some really great guys and am feeling happy about that. I know that normally after a break-up, women tend to change their hair in some way, but I really like my hair, so I'm trying to think of other things I can change.
I often wonder how people deal with heartache when they DON'T know that God is watching them and has a plan. Or when the Spirit isn't confirming to them that they're in the right place. Or who aren't surrounded by people who love and support them. Or if they have really been abused or abandoned by someone they love. That would be really horrible. I wonder how they deal with it? As my wise mother told me yesterday, "May you never find out."
So, that's where I am now. Sad, but doing fine. I definitely feel like I understand the human experience better now. I'm excited to see what God has in store for me. I know that (eventually) everything is going to work out just great. I'm glad I know God is mindful of me and helping me create a really wonderful life. I'm glad to be in a covenant relationship with Him.
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
A Big Announcement
Several months ago, Michael had a goofy dream that he told me about the next day. In the dream, he came over to my house and I had a live duck I was trying to kill. He tried killing it, but couldn't. I asked him what he thought the dream meant and he didn't know. But to me, a quasi-trained Freudian analysist, the meaning was obvious: the duck represented Michael's fear of commitment. I couldn't kill it, he had to kill it himself and he was trying to, but was having a hard time. Since that time, we have joked with each other about his need to kill a duck.
Those who have been following our relationship closely know about Michael's fear of commitment. Of the almost eight months we've been together, we've spent a total of about a month taking "time off" and not communicating so he'd have time to "think about what he wanted." These "times off" frequently resulted in me deciding to break up with him, but every time he would realize he didn't want to lose me, convince me to stick around and he would treat me totally awesome until I became secure in the relationship again and then he'd decide to back out again. We've been through at least three cycle of that.
Our most recent "week off" happened after we had set a wedding date that we were tentatively working towards and we were both happily counting down together. Michael had ordered my engagement ring and I was doing a little wedding planning while waiting for him to pop the question. His request for a week off was fairly (but not entirely) unexpected, but after a prayer and with a lot of help from my Heavenly Father, it became a great blessing to me because I learned to really cherish myself and came to really understand for the first time about each person's divine nature and individual worth (you might remember this post and this post where I reported without telling what was actually going on). You might remember that Michael showed up at my house after the week off with two bouquets of flowers, but I didn't tell you the best, most sweetest part-- after giving me the flowers he said he had something else for me. He went into my kitchen, got out my chopping board and my biggest knife, then he produced a rubber duckie and cut its head off declaring, "The duck is dead!" and that he was ready to commit.
Since then things have been great. I have felt loved and secure and it has been really nice. We went to a play last Monday night and I felt like we were the most in love couple there. It was really nice.
But, sadly, it has come to my attention that the duck is NOT dead, that Michael still doesn't know what he wants, and is very hesitant to give up his bachelor freedoms. I know that he loves me because he tells me all the time and his actions show that he does. And I know that it's not his intention to jerk me around, yet that's what's happening.
And so I decided, as a woman who cherishes myself and who has recently been promised by God that I will have everything I want in a relationship, that I don't want to be with Michael anymore. I want to be with a man who KNOWS that he wants to be with me and who can't imagine being without me, not just a guy who realizes categorically that I'm quite a catch and so is trying to convince himself that he should marry me even though he doesn't really want to. I know he loves me and that he wants to be with me to an extent, but not enough. I'm tired of the trauma. I'm tired of crying because it hurts that he doesn't know if he wants to be with me, but then feeling bad for crying because he treats me nice and says nice things to me and he's TRYING to want to marry me. I'm tired of feeling like as soon as I get comfortable and secure (again) he'll decide (again) that he's not sure. I'm tired of doing lots of little things to make Michael happy (because I love doing them), but then not being sure if he feels the same way about me. I'm tired of the underlying feeling that I've never been quite able to shake that I'm sort of an inconvenience to him. I deserve better.
And so, it's sad for both of us, but I'm calling it quits. I broke up with Michael about 15 minutes ago. Ironically, on the very day that six weeks ago we had been planning to get married.
My sister pointed out that there's a guy out there who is dying to marry me and will want desperately to marry me as soon as he knows me. I know that that is true and I'm excited to for that person to find me.
I don't regret anything about Michael. I don't regret giving him my heart and loving him. It has been really wonderful being loved by him. It has been all-in-all a great experience and one I plan to look back on with gratitude and happiness. But, it's time to move on. It's sad, but I know things will work out for the best and I will be very happy with how it all ends up. I hope very much that the same happens for Michael because he deserves it too.
I love this song and I think it sums up how I feel just about perfectly. Just change the words in the last verse from "David" to "Michael." The whole song is really good and has been a theme song of mine for a few years, but you can just listen to the last verse and get the basic idea of the current situation.
PS I wrote this post on Monday when I decided to end the relationship (Michael was out of town until this afternoon which is why it just now happened). And this post is a reflection of how I saw things then. But now that he and I have talked it out and ended things rather nicely, I feel very calm and assured that this is the right thing (although I reserve the right to weep and wail and cry later, should I feel inclined to do so). Right now, I really feel that more than Michael's fear of commitment, the relationship ended because it wasn't quite right. And that is a very peaceful feeling to me, at least right in this moment.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Reflections on the Constitution

Our Founding Fathers understood clearly that it is the nature and disposition of almost all men that as soon as they get a little authority they will begin to exercise unrighteous dominion. They had seen the effects of a strong central government and how it took away the individual rights of the people. Not just the right to speak and worship and assemble, but to govern themselves and to be able to use their property they way they wanted.
They also understood that rights do not come from the government, they come from God. There is no actual right that the government can GIVE us. The government does not give us permission to say what we want, go where we want, print and read what we want, what to do with our money, etc. The government is simple suppose to allow these rights. Which leads to my main point here, which is the single largest threat to any of our rights, freedoms and liberties IS government. What other organization would even think to tell us we can't say something, assemble somewhere, worship the way we want or spend our money the way we want? And I think this is something that we as Americans have lost sight of.

With this in mind, our Founding Fathers designed a outline for a government (The Constitution) whose very purpose was to protect people FROM the government. The Constitution is largely a document of "thou shalt not's." The government SHALL NOT INFRINGE on the rights of the people to keep and bear arms. The government SHALL MAKE NO LAW establishing a religion or PROHIBITING the exercise thereof. The government SHALL NOT VIOLATE a person's right to secure his property. All of these are just examples from the Bill of Rights (and if you study the Bill of Rights, every single one is telling the government what it cannot do). Most of The Constitution is a big "NO YOU CAN'T" to the Federal Government. As one small example: No Money shall be drawn from the Treasury, but in Consequence of Appropriations made by the Law (Article I, Section 9).
The Founding Fathers intended for the government to be small and thus leave individual rights and property alone as much as possible. And THAT has been the key to America's success. And therein, (in my opinion) is the REAL key to equality-- ALL men have equal access to their own lives and the fruit of their labor, without the government interfering. America was built on the idea of self-reliance and industry, but the current entitlement mentality has made us lose sight of our foundation.
Here's a rule of thumb my boss taught me for understanding the difference between a right and an entitlement. A right is something you do: I have the right to vote, to worship, to speak, to go on a walk, to have a job, to own a gun, to buy stuff, etc. A right is NOT something that someone else gives you, especially when you keep in mind that the government cannot give you anything without first taking it away from someone else (in other words, saying that they do not have a right to their own property). So, I do not have a right to: receive government money for buying a car or a house, universal healthcare, welfare, social security, money for researching wildlife, etc. (As an aside, any state that wants to can offer these benefits, but the federal government under the current way it is legally obligated to run has absolutely no business doing any of it.)
We, as a people, have lost sight of this idea and that's what has caused this massive government spending, unreasonable taxes (most people work 4 months a year just for Uncle Sam), huge federal debt (because four months a year obviously isn't enough so our grandchildren will need to pay for our living expenses) and thus the decline of individual liberty. It is all very discouraging.
But, there is hope! I firmly believe that there is not a problem wrong with the federal government today that cannot be cured by getting back to The Constitution.

That is why I passionately and adamently support Mike Lee for Utah Senate.

*He has sworn that he will not vote for any bill that is not in harmony with The Constitution and I believe and trust that he will actually do it.
So, please Utah friends, please go vote on June 22nd (next Tuesday). This election could come down to a few hundred votes and every person counts! Like Gandhi said, I know great things can happen if we will BE the change we're looking for in the world.

Also, as Levar Burton says, "You don't have to take my word for it." Study the candidates yourself. Be an informed voter.
Thank you for letting me share.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
One week down, the rest of my life to go
It all started simple enough-- getting a massage (I'm glad to say the world did not end when I "wasted" the money on that), spending a day riding roller coasters and buying any of the amusement park food I wanted (fun!), doing some shopping. But then one morning, seemingly out of nowhere, I had one of those break-through, now-I-get-it moments. I realized-- really realized-- for the first time ever that I am precious through and through based 100% only on the fact that God made me. The cynic might argue, but God made everyone. I respond: I know! Isn't it AMAZING?!! I always believed that, but know I really get it. And realizing something like that changes you on a certain level.
It was a great week. And I intend to carry on with my self-cherishing ways. It is an awesome feeling.
To celebrate my week, last night Michael brought me not one, but TWO bouquets of flowers.


And instead of feeling guilty that he was wasting his money on me, I just felt very happy.
A girl could get used to this.
Thursday, June 3, 2010
A Breakthrough, with goals
Last night, I had a really good thinking/praying session and I realized something so, so clearly: I am going to get everything I want. I absolutely am. Then an additional realization/revelation was added to complement the first: in order for that to happen, I need to change my heart. Specifically, do a better job cherishing myself.
I am happy to be able to say that I like myself and that I love myself. But cherishing is another matter-- to hold dear, treat with care and affection. It makes sense that no one else can really, truly cherish me until I cherish myself and as a natural result, expect that from others.
At first I was a bit intimidated by this assignment, but now I'm super excited. I have a gameplan:
First, I need to get better at spending money on myself. I am very thifty, and I like that about myself (especially when I peridically decide to quit my job and be unemployed for a few months and have the financial wherewithall to do so). And it is true that I don't make nearly as much money as I did in New York and my expenses here are the same or more. BUT there is no reason I should have this guilt associated with spending money on myself. So I am choosing to have a better, more-freely-giving-to-myself attitude about money.
Luckily, I just got my favorite necklace (my only nice one) fixed, so I can wear it every day. I bought it for myself for Christmas when I realized that Michael was not going to get it for me. It reminds me that I am worth taking care of and spending money on, and that doing so even makes me happy. I love this necklace. It is pretty, and it reminds me that I CAN have pretty things, and that I need to take care of me and not wait for a man to do it (although I do look forward to a time when a man will take care of me).

Buying it for myself just because I wanted it was a major breakthrough for me. But there's plenty more where that came from. I'm going to do the things I've always wanted to do but was afraid to spend the money on, like getting a season ticket to the local amusement park. I'm going to buy myself some nice make-up (even though none of my friends here can get me hefty discounts). I MIGHT even go so far as getting myself a manicure and a pedicure. I love them but in the past have only gotten them when it was socially unavoidable because I couldn't justify spending the money. But I'm worth it! This is all very liberating.
The second part of my gameplan involves mantra while I'm driving in my car. I will spare you the details, but they are very empowering. And I've had very good luck with mantras in the past.
Third, I am going to be more mindful of letting people help me and love me. For some reason I'm always surprised when someone is willing to do something nice for me, and that's just silly. I am thankful and happy to receive help and attention, and need to realize and accept that people love me and want to do things for me and it is a joy (not an inconvenience) for them. I have taken self-reliance to point that is ridiculous--even feeling guilty for things like getting a card from my mom ("she has better things to do") or accepting help from a sister ("I hate to waste her time"). I am chosing to let go of this harmful and untrue beliefs. This goal could be a little harder, and I'm still intimidated by it, but I am CHOSING to let go and make new habits and patterns for myself. I am worth it. Receiving, after all, is the soul of femininity.
So, that is what I"m working on right now. Thank you for your love and support.
Monday, May 17, 2010
The new job
My position is great! My boss is great! I am learning all about the school and always learning fun new things.
I've composed a list of things I love about my job.
1. I have my own office with a door. The door even has my name on it.

2. I learn new stuff all the time. Or get to spend time thinking about and discussing interesting things. As part of my work, I study the Constitution. This morning I spent an hour with my boss discussing whether the emotion or the thought comes first and how we can use that to motivate children to be conceptual thinkers. The day before the main topic of discussion was how much of your personality if trained and how much is innate, and how effective teachers can influence that. Lately my boss has been very interested in my views on energy, chakras, meridians, etc. As an extension of that, I've been watching youtube videos explaining quantum physics.
3. I get to be politically involved. I've helped plan several events for candidates. I organized a field trip (including chartering a bus) to the Tax Day Tea Party at the Capitol Building, which I also attended on company time. I made myself a sign for the event:
(I could have had the Publishing Department make me one, but I wanted to look grass-rootsy.)4. I get to read all the resumes and decide who gets to come in for testing. It is fun-- most of the time. I have also learned that of all the possible bad grammar things that could bug me, the thing that bugs me the most by far is how often people omit much-needed hyphens. For example, I guarantee you that 95% of the people who apply, would have left the hyphen out of the previous sentence. It drives me nuts!
5. When I have a hard decision to make at my job, I ask myself "What would Ayn Rand do?"
6. We are a very pro-America company. When I moved into my office, there were (by actual count) seven flags there.
7. Since I'm not standing in front of a class all day, I can wear high heels every day. And that makes me feel pretty. Also, since I'm trying to impress the higher-ups, I usually wear earrings. It's nice.
8. Since I have my own office with a door and it's in an openly politically conservative office, I finally have a nice place to hang my Ronald Reagan calendar and my NRA plaque. 
Of course, it's not all kicks and giggles. There are some things that I do not like about my job. Namely, sending rejection letters to people who came for an interview, but we decide not to hire. On one hand, it's a good thing because before I started they didn't send them at all, which is kind of inconsiderate. But I have learned that I do not like signing anything where a smiley face after my name is not appropriate. And I send a lot of them-- I bet an average of one per day. But that is about the only thing I don't like, so I guess I should complain too much.
So, as you can see, life is quite good. No surprise that things are working out very well for me. I am Holly Bluemlein, after all.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Normally I'm a good influence on people
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Northwest Tour 2010
Seattle did not disappoint! The report of my adventures will revolve largely around the things I remembered to photograph while there.
I saw the sights.
The troll under the bridge (yes, that is a real VW Bug under his hand)

The World-Famous Pike's Place Market (the flowers were my favorite by far)

I had fun seeing lots of friends. Originally, I just thought, "I'll go see Becca in Seattle." Then when I was checking my route and saw I would pass through Boise, I decided to stop and visit Rachel (which I have been meaning to do forever) and meet her hubby. While I was driving up, I remembered my hero/adventuring mentor Amber who is currently running a disaster clean-up business in southern Washington. She is my favorite and I haven't seen her in years. Plus, when I changed my plans to see her, I saw my new route would take me through Portland, which made me wonder if Amy still lived in Oregon. Turned out she does, and I got to see her for breakfast Saturday morning! Add wonderful Jenn, who also lives in Seattle, and I got to see five awesome friends for the price of one! I love my life.
One night Becca, Jenn, and I stayed up until 3:30 playing Ticket to Ride and laughing laughing laughing. I kept telling myself: "Married people don't get to do fun things like this."

Jenn took me to a brothel-turned-pizza restaurant for dinner. They even have lingerie there that you can put on while you eat.
(You might think that it would be a cute idea to send your boyfriend a picture of you wearing lingerie in a former brothel because, after all, you add MORE clothes to what you had on before, so it's really not scandelous or seductive or anything. Oh, what a silly little naive girl you are. Don't do it.)I came out one day to discover my hubcap was missing. I couldn't figure out why anyone would want to steal just one hubcap and then it occurred to me that it must have fallen off. Which might explain why my wheel had felt woobly the day before.

In other car-related news, I hit another milestone which, true to form, I missed by about 6 miles
As it should be, the vacation food was unbelievable!
Becca and I accidentally ate an entire container of fortune cookies in a little over 20 minutes.
They were very delicious. But there were only four fortunes in the whole box and all of them were, oddly enough, sponsored by the US Census. I am not making this up. Jenn and Becca and I went and got some heavenly cake

This pie I ate with Amber in southern Washington. It was so good I literally had to put my head down on the table and pound my fist. Seriously. It was that good.

My time in Seattle reminded me that there are things I love about big city life (the architecture, the stores, the parks, all the people), but that there are definite advantages to small-town life (most notably- parking lots).
I had so much fun shopping, looking at beautiful spring in Seattle, and mostly catching up and laughing with friends.
Then right after my breakfast in Portland with Amy on Saturday morning, I took off quick like a bunny to get home because I wanted to spend Easter with Michael.
I got home at 11pm and was very pleased to see Michael (who had been sufficiently lonely while I was gone) had gotten there before me to turn on the heater so I wouldn't be cold and put dinner in the oven so I wouldn't be hungry. What a man!
This picture is actually the next day when he was carving the Easter ham. One of the best things about having a man around is never having to carve the meat yourself. The next day I got to watch conference with my special fella, while cooking up a nice Easter dinner. What a good way to celebrate Christ's triumphant over death and sin. As I listened to the choir sing about Him and His living prophets and apostle talk about Him, I felt very very thankful to Jesus Christ for what He did for me on the first Easter and how he continually manifests himself in my life today. I know that He lives and that He is the Son of God. I am so thankful for my testimony of His restored gospel.


